Judging by the title one might assume this post is about something important. It's not. Don't fool yourself. It's just going to be about listening. Lame I know. Suck it up, or don't read.
I like to think of myself as a good listener. For the most part I am genuinely interested in what people have to say, even if they think it's really lame or stupid or boring or even above my intelligence level. I'm here to tell you, it feels good to be listened to. Growing up (and still), I was never listened to. I remember a few times when telling my mom a story, I would grab her face and ask "what did I just say?" and she wouldn't know, then I would have to repeat myself and feel down that my own mother didn't even have the patience to listen to my story or whatever I had to say. I got to the point that when people stopped listening, I stopped telling. If a person cuts me off in the middle of my story to start onto their own, I just figure I am done talking and let the other person take it away. It doesn't really phase me anymore, I've gotten used to it. I have to admit, I know I am not a very good talker. Sometimes I stutter and lose my train of thought and I understand it's hard to listen to someone like that.
It's always a surprise when people actually listen to me. I can remember two distinct times in the last couple of years when people actually listened to what I had to say. Once at Bear Lake. I was telling a story, my cousin cut me off to start telling his own story, so I just leaned back to listen. My (now) friend looked me right in the eyes and said that he wanted to hear the rest of my story. He never broke eye contact and I knew he was listening (I almost fell in love with him that day). The second time, I was in a discussion for one of my classes and when I started talking, the WHOLE class turned and listened to me. It was almost exhilarating.
I know that people don't cut others off on purpose, and that not everyone doesn't listen, and that I am probably just over exaggerating everything, this is just how it feels.
Gross, this sounds like I am sorry for myself. Don't read it like that because it's not suppose to sound like that.
I think I am going to watch Dumb and Dumber, it's been a while.
i LOVE that you ranted about this. im so happy kenlynn haha finding out your deep emotions is truly life changing.
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